Four Simple words, "I want a divorce," will change your life; forever. Meet Desiree the Divorcee, who travels the bumpy road from Mrs. to Ms. with insight and humor. You’ve heard someone called a "good egg," but have you ever heard someone called a "good sperm?" Meet Bobo (long o) and Bobette, who poke fun at the gender gap. Then there’s Divorced Lady, who has a lot to say; from taking care of business, to taking care of you, to the emotional and spiritual journey that is fraught with trepidation and fear, but concludes in joy and jubilation.

An ending is also a beginning. As you turn negatives into positives, you discover your strengths. You discover your dreams. You discover you, the real you, the inner you, the person you are – and it’s wonderful, free and positive!

Divorced Lady, "I Have Something to Say . . ." is an informative, insightful, heartfelt and humorous look down the road to a new beginning: a ray of light to brighten the path. It is positive. So, settle down in your favorite chair, and enjoy.

pj hill lives alone, by choice. Since living alone, she has completed a master’s degree, mediates divorcing couples, and designed a workshop to help others who may be thinking about, going through or have been through a divorce.

"A life changing event is a learning experience. The emotional upheaval, not just yours but all involved, and the legalities you encounter can leave you drained physically, spiritually and financially. But, the journey through a life-altering event can be a journey of self-discovery. You don’t change you – you become you – the person you are."

Always a writing buff, pj hill is the author of published stories, articles and award winning poetry. Writing Divorced Lady, "I Have Something to Say . . ." is a culmination of sharing thoughts, ideas and insights from a vast array of people, research, and reading. "You will go through emotional turmoil. It is ok to be emotionally distraught. But, know that the emotional upheaval can produce a wonderful calmness and tranquility that frees you. Tears of joy for what is found can replace tears of sorrow for what was lost. And, what is found is you. Love yourself, set yourself free, and be!"

As she was going through the divorce, Desiree thought she would end up a lonely old lady. No friends, no soul mate, no future. She thought she was past her prime. Her looks weren’t what they use to be and her body wasn’t primed for the pump. Desiree thought wrong.

It’s her turn. It’s time to be her own best friend. Desiree started to like herself. She discovered herself. She pampered herself. She read, slept right smack in the middle of the bed, snored, ate what she wanted to eat, when she wanted to eat it. She discovered new places. She went alone. "Knockers up girl and walk in with confidence," she would say as she squared her shoulders and marched in.

She mingled and smiled. Life on her own was good! She doesn’t need a man to make her life complete. Her dog loves her unconditionally. Girl talk with friends is rewarding. They understand. They don’t give her that glazed look. You know, the one that makes you doubt yourself and your sanity. Who needs it.

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"When God closes a door, He opens a window." "..out with the old, in with the new." "Today is the first day of the rest of your life." Everything old is new again." "You’re better off without him." "Things will look better tomorrow." "What will be, will be." "Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again." "Time heals all wounds." "You will love again."

Friends and family hug us because we hurt. They speak the words to us because they want us to feel better. They think they are helping, and they are. But, sometimes you just want to smack them and let them know that what they are saying is hogwash. Things will not look better tomorrow. You can’t start all over again. You will never, ever love again. The door is closed shut, and the window is closed and it’s stifling in here and . . .

Even though you appreciate their concern; and even know what they say is correct, while you are wallowing in your misery, you don’t want to look at it that way. Your mood is black, your future looks bleak and your heart is broken. Don’t they get that?

Yes, they get that. And yes, the words of comfort and the old adages ring true. It’s part of the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s there, but you have to keep moving forward before it peeks out at you, and slowly envelopes you with its warmth.

A funny thing happens, too. When someone tells you they are getting a divorce, the first thing you do is give them a hug and speak the words to them because you want to help. You know they are true, and as your friend looks at you with that "I want to smack you look," you smile, because you know . . .