C.J. Gebelin
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The days can be fun, they can be rough, they can be what we make it, or what a parent makes it. Either way, when living at home with parents, there is no question there will be relief if you can find ways to deal with them. After all, you’re trying to just be yourself, live your life, find out who you are and what you want to become, right?
Maybe if they understood you more clearly, and all they have forgotten, maybe you can help them understand more clearly about all they have forgotten.
This little handbook is interactive, easy to use and can be very powerful.
It's a small reach into the situation you might be in with parents, and what things you can do to make life at home with them what it can be and should be.
You may want to give it as a gift to someone having trouble at home, one of your friends or someone they know. It’s a small treasure of advice and truth meant only for a teen, and easy to understand. After all... it is the truth of teenage life with parents in a world that’s lost all control.
You will take from its pages your own special intellectual weaponry to be your self.
This book is for you, about you and will totally back you.This is a book of complete understanding, one from your side, one that needs to be seen and heard. It's meant to show you how to be seen and heard for who you are, what you feel, and who you want to be right now. It’s you’re birth-given rights, use them! Smile!
With a past of immense experiences in life and world mentalities, C. J. Gebelin has lived half of her life back and forth from Europe and has observed life intelligently.
Born as an only child, having known a strong father of military background full of life and wisdom, he showed her how to be who she is, inside and out through being her self. She has survived several intense situations that most would not experience one of in an entire lifetime. Now she has discovered her experiences have held a purpose far greater then what she had ever thought before.
Always looking to the light and love that shines forth from that wisdom given to her, she now deems it necessary to bring forth the rights of those teens in this world who need to be heard and seen for who they are as individuals. She is only interested in the way things are meant to be, and what works.
She discovered long ago, a teenage mother herself once, that survival is not only on the level of maintaining a happy life balance and being accepted, but to keep your rights as a human being.
She believes that you have to create the world in your environment that allows you to become who you are from your heart and soul. From the flame that keeps you alive and looking forward into all that is there to embrace and become as your own. She believes that no one will do this for you better then you.
All right, let’s get to the bottom line. Parents are all different, unique and individual. They seem to have mood swings and get affected by their work or hobbies or friends or studies. They seem to say the words I love you, when you don’t need to hear it and never say it when you do.
What’s up with that?
Well, for one thing, they forget to remember things.
Like kids are all different and unique and individual.
That they have mood swings and get affected by their hobbies or friends or studies. They seem to hear it when you say I love you but don’t act like they feel it when you need them to.
We can blame every day living, or jobs, or social standards on why they don’t get to know you as a person all day long.
The problem is it won’t change the habit they may get into of forgetting that you are a very unique person and just as individual as they are. That you have the same needs that they expect from you.
Maybe they believe that because they have more experience, age, or wisdom, it gives them the right to stop listening to you. To stop hearing what you are exactly trying to explain to them about who you are and what you feel about things in your life or future.
In these days and times, its sad but true, teens are left to figure out too much alone and take on more responsibility with no back from parents.
It’s one thing to have to be faced with making a good choice when you get put in the position of having to go one way or another when your somewhere alone with friends. That has to happen, and does. It's called living, right?
But in that case you know right from wrong deep inside, and know what you want. If you don’t, then don’t be confused or feel alone cause it’s, not your fault.
That’s why I wrote this little handbook. It really is a handbook you can interact with. It's simple, but powerful.
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Who made any law that said, your parents have to trust you but you don’t have to trust them?
No one. But yet it’s one of the biggest problems for almost every teen I’ve ever met. And it’s a serious one.
You should be able to trust your parents.
It’s your job to make sure your parents understand that you need to trust them before you can be yourself or open up to them in the ways they expect you too.
Its also your job to make sure they realize that you, like them, have your own deep secrets about a few things that have to do with you, that you keep for yourself. Just like everyone on this planet. Why else do parent/s buy diaries for their kids?
Being a parent is not about HOW you look in other’s eyes. Or about skill level. Its about simply being a good-hearted human being.
It’s about being a very understanding, patient, fair and loving human being to a younger human being as they go through the early years towards finding out what and who they want to be in their life ahead that awaits.
Envy
With eyes of wisdom,
The Eagle above
To think they are as this
Dove of sweet,
kind understanding
to think they love like this
Storms of great power,
and force above
to wish to control like this
Hearts and minds,
lost in secret envy
life is all amiss
For this envy,
they stand in line
They forget to teach
A path evading anger
and greed,
A path they cannot reach
Loss and destruction,
mankind reaps
Then mankind has lost
it's time
The path we hold
within ourselves,
This path we must embrace
and find
