Glenn Cohen
This workbook is a supplement to the book, The Journey from “I-TO-WE”. It encompasses the 23-step, comprehensive “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship” program developed to help individuals and couples achieve relationship success at home, at work and within themselves.
I highly recommend that both you and your partner have your own personal copy of the workbook. I also advise reading each corresponding chapter in the book twice before you begin the workbook exercises. The book offers in-depth conceptual descriptions of the ideas and principles behind the “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship” program along with vignettes that detail a story of a fictional couple composed from people I have coached over the years. The combined elements convey each concept, skill and technique.
A comprehensive program is contained within the book and workbook. The exercises will challenge you to face your fears and stretch beyond your comfort zone. You will examine many aspects of yourself, your partner, and your relationship in a way you have never done before. You will be asked to be vulnerable, empathetic, courageous, and honest, and to accept absolute personal responsibility for your words, actions, and behaviors.
Working together and valuing this program is critical. You cannot succeed if you agree to participate in this journey without wholeheartedly being committed. If you take shortcuts or hold back, you will cheat your partner, your relationship and yourself. The more you put in, the more you will gain. Aim to give 101% of yourself and enjoy the full benefit of the program. Remember, it takes two to “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship.”
Glenn Cohen is a certified relationship coach. He completed his coaching proficiency skills through the Relationship Coaching Institute and the Coach’s Training Institute. He is the founder of “I-TO-WE” Relationship Coaching and the author of The Journey from “I-TO-WE.”
His personal life challenges inspired his study of the dynamics of relationships and the complex emotional factors which contribute to relationships filled with safety, friendship, trust, respect, admiration, joy, passion, and love versus disappointment, frustration, defensiveness, resentment, contempt and anger.
Through his experiences, coaching individuals and couples, and years of research, he was inspired to create a program that encompassed the “best of the best” from other professionals and his own personal journey. His highly acclaimed book and accompanying workbook, The Journey from “I-TO-WE” is an all-inclusive, comprehensive guide that has been praised by professionals and clients alike.
The Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship program has resulted in clients creating a happier and more satisfying life. The results offer a solid foundation for any relationship, whether it is with a partner, children, friends or co-workers.
In addition to coaching individuals and couples, Glenn conducts training programs, speeches, and seminars for companies, civic organizations, and other associations on how to achieve relationship fulfillment and success at home, at work, and within the self. He also trains other coaches, healthcare professionals, religious counselors, and corporations on the use of his innovative program.
Glenn resides in Charleston, South Carolina, where he runs his private coaching practice. Glenn coaches clients from all across the country via telephone and the Internet. You may contact him for individual, couples, or corporate coaching, a speaking engagement, seminars, or workshops. You may contact him at:
www.i-to-we-relationship-coaching.com
This workbook is a supplement to the book, The Journey from “I-TO-WE”. It encompasses the 23-step, comprehensive “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship” program developed to help individuals and couples achieve relationship success at home, at work and within themselves.
The practical, interactive, and highly innovative exercises in this workbook are designed to help you strengthen your newly acquired awareness, skills and techniques learned from the book as you master this program.
I highly recommend that both you and your partner have your own personal copy of the workbook. I also advise reading each corresponding chapter in the book twice before you begin the workbook exercises. The book offers in-depth conceptual descriptions of the ideas and principles behind the “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship” program along with vignettes that detail a story of a fictional couple composed from people I have coached over the years. The combined elements convey each concept, skill and technique.
Married couples, life partners, couples who are separated and looking for a way to reunite, and pre-committed couples who are considering taking final vows of marriage all benefit from following the “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship” program. Additionally, an individual who has endured relationship difficulties in the past can gain insights from the book and this workbook to facilitate success in his or her next relationship opportunity.
You can expect to explore the following topics:
Section 1 – Lay the Foundation for Relationship Success
Begin with an assessment of your relationship. Move to making four commitments. Master the Conscious Discussion Technique to communicate your issues, problems, thoughts and feelings. Read about the twelve Relationship Languages. Gain fluency by learning how to speak each other’s languages to feel safe, loved and cared for.
Section 2 – Look Within: The Journey Begins with “I”
Understand and own what you bring to the relationship. Discover the existence of emotional wounds, fears and reactivity—and their consequences. Gain awareness of your Relationship Killer words, actions and behaviors. Learn about the Cycle of Conflict in terms of how it begins, how you contribute to it, how you can stop it, and how you can successfully conduct the business of arguing.
Section 3 – Stop Fighting and Begin Crossing the Bridge
Discover how to initiate positive dramatic change within yourself to achieve a peaceful soul. Create a plan to stop avoiding each other and the relationship. Know how to ask for and accept behavior change requests.
Section 4 – Cross Over the Bridge Together
Identify your various levels of needs. Uncover the root causes for recurring problems. Learn the Conscious Compromise Technique to manage and live peacefully with your unsolvable problems.
Section 5 – Put the Roof on Your Relationship Home
Learn how to develop and nurture the bonds of friendship and connection. Define values and vision for yourself, and create a shared list for the relationship.
Section 6 – Stoke the Fires: Solve the Passion Equation
Define passion through discovering each other’s important words, actions, and behaviors. Speak each other’s languages of romance, intimacy, and sexuality.
Section 7 – Now and Forever: Love Your Life Together
Learn to coach children in becoming emotionally healthy and successful. Create rituals, symbols, and structures for the family and your relationship to bind and implement all of the awareness, skills and techniques you have learned.
A comprehensive program is contained within the book and workbook. More often than not, people will read a book and forget the material as soon as the last page is turned. To avoid that problem, I have intentionally designed this workbook to include multiple exercises that build upon and reinforce the awareness, knowledge, skills, and techniques learned in each chapter. IMPORTANT: Complete each chapter in the order presented before you proceed to the next.
To encourage you to complete each exercise and keep all your work in one safe place, I have provided plenty of space for you to write your answers. All of your writing can occur in the workbook. That way, it remains available for you to review.
The exercises will challenge you to face your fears and stretch beyond your comfort zone. You will examine many aspects of yourself, your partner, and your relationship in a way you have never done before. You will be asked to be vulnerable, empathetic, courageous, and honest, and to accept absolute personal responsibility for your words, actions, and behaviors.
Working together and valuing this program is critical. You cannot succeed if you agree to participate in this journey without wholeheartedly being committed. If you take shortcuts or hold back, you will cheat your partner, your relationship and yourself. The more you put in, the more you will gain. Aim to give 101% of yourself and enjoy the full benefit of the program. Remember, it takes two to “Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship.”
As you work your way through this program, remember that words are great, but actions validate. Partners need to see, hear, and experience the actions that allow them to feel safe, loved and cared for while gaining the level of trust, respect and admiration necessary for the successful completion of The Journey from “I-TO-WE”.
My hope is that my coaching guides you on a wonderful journey together as you begin to cross the bridge into your field of sunflowers. There, I hope you will enjoy a relationship filled with safety, trust, respect, admiration, friendship, joy, passion, and love.
Throughout this workbook, you will be asked to describe your feelings about a wide range of issues and experiences. If you ever have trouble expressing yourself, there’s help. Refer to Appendix A for vocabulary that conveys positive feelings and to Appendix B for words that impart negative feelings.
Supplies needed:
- Red, Blue and Black Pens
- Calculator
- Patience
- Courage
- Commitment
- Determination
- Positive Belief
