The First 365

About the Book

My wife battled health issues for many years, but we adjusted, and we had a plan. We had adjusted the rhythm of our lives. The key word was “we,” and the six words “I am sorry to inform you” were all gone. I remember never feeling more alone during those initial moments than at any time in my life. You see, my wife was a big part of my life. I remember the reaction of others who were sitting around me the first time I publicly proclaimed those words. The knowing smiles and the gentle nods let me know that they understood. You see, the first time I stated this was during a seminar titled “Surviving the Holidays.” In this seminar, everyone there had experienced a significant loss of some sort. Like almost everyone else, I had individuals close to me who passed away. I couldn’t help but to wonder why did this loss feel so much more personal to me? The answer became very clear. However, this was a battle that I had been more personally invested in than any of my previous losses. I will never forget my first words upon hearing that my wife had died. Those words were “Oh, Robyn.” What may have seemed like a weird reaction to some was part of the irrational thoughts that would become very familiar to me. “Why didn’t you tell me that you were dying? We could tell each other anything!”

About the Author

Terrell L Whitener was born in St. Louis, Missouri in 1957 and spent his formative years in University City, Missouri a suburb of St. Louis. After a distinguished career that spanned over 40 years, Terrell’s life was forever changed by the death of his wife Robyn. His first book The First 365 shares the journey Terrell experienced during the first year after Robyn’s death. Not a how to book in any way, the goal of the First 365 is to provide needed information, new revelations and affirmation to individuals that have lost someone significant in their lives. Terrell received his Bachelors Degree from Southeast Missouri State University in Cape Girardeau, Mo and his Masters degree from Webster University in Webster Groves, MO. Currently Terrell spends his time as a motivational speaker, coach and author. Terrell continues to reside in University City and has one son Matthew .